How would you rate your performance on a day to day basis? I’m talking about how you’re performing in the various areas of your life–your work, your significant relationships, your spirituality, other areas.
Are you satisfied with your progress? Discontented? Proud? Ashamed? Indifferent? Maybe you don’t even think about it? Or when you do, you feel guilty for not doing more?
I’ve noticed that for so many of us how we’re doing isn’t a huge reflection theme. People tend to allow themselves to be on “autopilot”–they just do what they need to do and, most of the time, when they need to do it. No real thought. Just do it.
Others of us do reflect or evaluate ourselves. But our focus tends to be negative evaluation–we never quite measure up to our expectations or what we think others expect of us. So we often feel guilty or less than–especially when we compare ourselves to others.
Is there anything in your life you would like to change? Perhaps a habit? Or a goal that you want to accomplish that you believe will make your life better in some tangible ways? Or to change a behavior or mindset that no longer is serving you well?
I have yet to meet a person who is 100% satisfied with everything in their life. We all have dreams, desires, hopes for something better, to improve some area of our lives, to move forward toward a more preferred future.
Last week’s blog post described the hamster wheel kind of life that so many people find themselves caught up in. It’s the vicious cycle that can’t seem to stop. So we live in exhaustion, discouragement, lack of energy and inspiration, and a sense of being victims to our schedules and environments. A terrible and unhealthy way to live!
The good news is that there are two ways to strategically move beyond this painful cycle. Last week’s blog described the first strategy: get clear on your identity and what your identity is based upon. Click here to read that post!
Does it ever feel like your job is sucking the soul out of you? Is your work environment fueling a sense of powerlessness where you feel you’re being mastered rather than the other way around–you’ve become a slave to the master of your work–you’re trapped in a never-ending cycle of demands from everyone around you, urgent needs and To Do’s, so you’re drained of all energy at the end of the day? And this habitual pattern has repeated itself for years until you feel like there’s no hope for anything better? Do you feel like you’re on the proverbial hamster wheel, running and running and running, expending all your energy but really getting nowhere?
One of my clients was feeling this way in deep and profound ways when he came to me. “What do I do? Is there anything I can do to get out of this vicious cycle?” he asked plaintively. “I’ve lost all of my passion and creativity! Can I get it back?”
I had a conversation recently with a highly educated professional–brilliant and successful in his field–who is, as he described it, having a breakdown in his life. His stress levels are sky high, his body is falling apart, he’s depressed and discouraged, and his family life is strained. His energy stores are depleted. He’s going nonstop at work.
When I had him identify his top 5-7 core values–those values most important to him that he believes should inform all of his life choices and decisions–first on his list is what he calls “biology over technology.” When I asked him what that meant, he gave a profound definition, “I believe human beings look and feel their best when they move at the speed of biology not technology.”